Divorce is never easy, and when it’s your child going through it, the emotions can feel overwhelming. Parents often want to step in and “fix” the situation, but the most powerful role they can play is one of steady, compassionate support.
First, listen without judgment. Your child may be processing grief, anger, or confusion. Offering a safe space where they can share openly—without fear of criticism—helps them feel validated. Resist the urge to give immediate advice; sometimes, being heard is more healing than being guided.
Second, respect boundaries. Divorce is deeply personal, and while you may want details, your child may not be ready to share everything. Let them set the pace for disclosure. This shows respect for their autonomy and helps rebuild their sense of control.
Third, provide practical support. Whether it’s helping with childcare, meals, or financial guidance, small acts of service can ease the burden. Be mindful, though, not to take over. The goal is to empower, not to create dependency.
Fourth, model resilience. Children often look to their parents for cues on how to handle adversity. Demonstrating patience, empathy, and calm reassures them that stability is possible even in times of upheaval.
Finally, encourage professional help if needed. Therapists, mediators, or support groups can provide tools that family alone cannot. Framing this as a sign of strength rather than weakness can help your child embrace outside resources.
In the end, your role is not to solve the divorce but to walk alongside your child with love, dignity, and steadiness. By being present, respectful, and supportive, parents can help their child navigate one of life’s most difficult transitions with hope and resilience
Donald Morris CDFA® President Central Ohio Academy of Collaborative Divorce Professionals