The holidays are supposed to be a season of warmth, connection, and celebration—but when you’re going through a divorce, they can feel heavy, disorienting, and emotionally charged. Traditions shift, expectations collide with reality, and the contrast between what was and what is becomes sharper than ever. Yet with intention and compassion, it’s possible to navigate this season with steadiness and even create moments of genuine peace.
First, acknowledge what you’re feeling. Research shows that the holidays amplify emotional stress for people in transition, especially those navigating separation or divorce. Grief, anger, loneliness, or even relief are all normal responses. Giving yourself permission to feel without judgment is the first step toward healing.
Second, simplify. Many people unintentionally make the holidays harder by overcommitting, overspending, or forcing themselves into traditions that no longer fit. This year, choose what truly matters. Release the pressure to recreate the past. Instead, focus on small, meaningful rituals that support your wellbeing.
If you have children, clarity and planning are essential. Holiday schedules, travel, and traditions can become emotional flashpoints. Experts emphasize the importance of early communication, putting the children’s needs first, and keeping conflict away from holiday moments. A peaceful season for them begins with calm, predictable structure from you.
Financial stress can also spike this time of year. With divorce already reshaping budgets, be realistic and gentle with yourself. Thoughtful planning—rather than emotional spending—helps protect your stability and reduces pressure.
Finally, create space for support. Whether it’s a therapist, a trusted friend, a support group, or simply someone who listens without judgment, connection is a powerful antidote to holiday isolation.
Divorce changes the holidays, but it doesn’t erase your ability to experience meaning, hope, or joy. With intention, boundaries, and compassion, you can move through this season with dignity—and begin shaping traditions that reflect the life you’re building next.
Donald Morris CDFA® President Central Ohio Academy of Collaborative Divorce Professionals