Bob Armstrong

INTRODUCTION/GENERAL COMMENTS/PERSONAL GOALS FOR INVOLVEMENT IN COLLABORATIVE FAMILY LAW CASES:

When a marriage ends, there is already enough pain and grief. It should not be compounded by the divorce process. I have been told that when a couple gets to that place, "it is just a matter of numbers." Nothing could be further from the truth. There are a great many feelings involved and what those numbers mean to each partner must be considered. Collaborative law provides you and your spouse a process for ending your marriage in a spirit of respect and consideration. This probably sounds impossible. But the team of collaborative professionals that surrounds you during the process makes it possible for the two of you to deal with both the legal and emotional issues involved. I am very impressed by the caliber of legal expertise and compassion our collaborative law attorneys provide their clients. Still this is a stressful time and it is my job to help you manage your stress so you can clearly express your interests, understand the options put before you and participate in crafting an agreement that you find acceptable. This is not counseling. It is a form of coaching; helping you both play your roles in the process. There are few moments I find more satisfying than when two people realize that their marriage has ended but they feel there is life ahead.